South Florida’s Sexiest Swingers Club
Safety First
At Defy Lifestyle Club, the enjoyment, privacy and security of our guests are always our primary focus. In order to maintain this exciting, safe, and secure atmosphere, it is imperative that our club members share in these same club priorities at all times. In essence; respect the privacy of other members, do not touch unless invited, and be respectful at all times. Our entire staff takes great pride in the sexy, safe, and inviting atmosphere.
Dress Code
At Club Defy we follow a strict dress code. Please read it before you attend.
Club Rules
Please take a moment to fully read and understand all club rules prior to your visit. For the privacy and enjoyment of all guests, please expect these club rules to be strictly enforced.
The Lifestyle is about subtlety and discretion
o ASK BEFOR YOU TOUCH. ASK ONCE AND ONLY ONCE
o The Golden Rule: “NO means NO”. Anyone may say “NO” for any reason at any time even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say “No”. Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way is to say, “Oh, no thank you, but thanks for asking”. Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Don’t forget that people’s attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.
o Always treat one another with respect. After all, this is a party!!!! Besides, you don’t want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. If a single gentleman talks to you and you are interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to him. He’s a person just like you! Just politely let him know.
o If you are rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), Do NOT take personal offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, and it’s almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation right.
o Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.
o Always let your steady partner know she/he is number one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.
o Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Swingers, couples & single guys are people and have feelings too!!!
o Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.
o Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please don’t forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don’t try to “talk them into” changing the rules because you don’t happen to agree with them!
o Pay attention to body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited.
o ARRIVE TOGETHER AND LEAVE TOGETHER
o NO CELL PHONE USE IN PLAY AREAS
o DO NOT OPEN CLOSED DOORS
o Expectations of Privacy
I've already said people are weird, but they're even stranger about this part. Sure, they're at a swingers club and they are swapping partners, but they may still want their privacy. Fortunately, doors make this particular problem easy to solve. Simple rules apply here:
Open/no door - If you don't mind people watching you play, or having people ask to join in, take your group to a room with no door, or to a room with a door, left wide open. An open door is just that -- an invitation to watch or participate. You can always say "no" if someone tries to join your group whom you don't like, and a group can always say "no" if you ask to join but they don't want you to. Still, it's perfectly acceptable here to ask.
Cracked door - If you don't mind people watching you play, but you don't want anyone joining in, leave the door cracked open. This is the universal "look, but don't touch" symbol; you can nudge the door open enough to peek in, but it's expected you won't join in or ask to. On some occasions, if someone peeking in looks interesting, they'll be invited in anyway, but it's expected that you'll leave groups alone and just watch unless explicitly invited.
Closed door - If you don't want any intrusions, keep the door closed entirely. If you're wandering through a club and spot a closed door, leave it that way. Sometimes a door will have a small window in it, and it's okay to peek through this, but otherwise, leave it alone. Don't open the door to peek in, don't knock to invite yourself into their party, etc. If you do, be prepared for a scolding and a stern "no".
o CLEAN UP YOUR OWN MESS
o NUDITY Nudity is allowed everywhere but the buffet area. However, men are only allowed to be nude when they are actively involved in play, on a bed, or waiting your turn at the orgy bed. Simply, men can not walk around the club nude, that includes partially nude. Women can be nude when walking around as long as shoes are worn
o COUPLES A couple is two people. For polyamory couples this still applies. If you are bringing more than one partner in then you will need to pay for the third person as a single (we understand that you are technically not single).
o AGE REQUIREMENT You must be 21 years old with proper ID
o ACCEPTED PAYMENT Payment for entry, membership, and merchandise is cash or credit card. Personal checks will not be accepted.
o FORMS OF ACCEPTABLE PAYMENT We accept Cash, Visa, MasterCard and Discover.
o REFUNDS No refunds given if you have been ejected for behavior and/or any other reason.
o SINGLE MALES Single Males are NOT permitted on Saturdays AND ARE ONLY ALLOWED INTO PLAY AREAS WHEN ESCORTED BY A COUPLE OR FEMALE.
o Towel Sharks Single ladies are highly respected at Defy Lifestyle club. Stalking or harassment of single ladies is never permitted and, will result in suspension of membership at the discretion of management. NO questions No exceptions.
o Couples must stay together, come together and leave together. Men are not allowed to wander around the club by themselves. You must be a member to enter the club.
o Tours are given early in the evening to new members. Please make arrangements to do so.
New members should arrive by 11pm
o Drugs No drugs allowed on the premise. You will be banned if you do bring drugs.
Dangerous or Dirty play is not permitted. This is not a place for pain or bodily fluids
Your Privacy
At Club Defy, we understand the need for discretion and privacy, and we take this responsibility as one of our highest priorities. Please take a moment to read these important details regarding club membership.
Membership applications must be completed by each person requesting membership or guest entrance. Each person must disclose his or her true and legal identity upon making application for Club Defy membership. This information is kept confidential and is not shared with any outside party unless there is a legally compelling reason to provide such information to an agency that makes a legal request.
While we understand that some may not wish to disclose their legal identification, we will not grant membership or access to those who refuse to provide this information.
Your true identity is used to provide protection to all members, and in turn provides a level of additional privacy and protection for yourself. We maintain your true name, date of birth, and identification number on file. This information may be used from time to time to run our membership base against public predatory sex offenders databases, to help ensure that Club Defy is free from registered sexual predators. Additional use of true identity assists us in ensuring that those who are banned from Club Defy for any reason do not have a reasonable way to re-join under a different name.
Membership Questions
Before you come for your first visit to Club Defy please fill out the online waiver found on our membership page.
On your first visit remember to bring in your picture ID. Your membership will be finalized once you come in and register on location at Club Defy. It will go something like this:
Fill out the online waiver
Review the membership option
Bring in your picture ID
Purchase your membership at Club Defy’s front desk.
Are lockers and showers available?
Yes, we have lockers available. You can put whatever you want in the lockers but they are not very big.
Showers and towels are available as a courtesy upon entering the play area
